Oh. [ they knew this, logically, and really just kept saying it. ] I swear I'm not calling your life a giant fart. It's more like... manipulating somebody into thinking certain things are true or that they're misremembering things, sort of steering them into thinking a certain way for their own gain. Does that help?
[a grim smile because, comparing her life to a fart also made sense, but this is admittedly a better comparison.]
And I agree that's what happened to me. But it doesn't mean every lesson I learned was wrong. I was taught to believe in some awful things, but I also survived, and I don't regret learning to be a survivor. [and yet some people would think the pragmatism and self-preservation that was hard won was immoral.]
The methods might've been extremely fucked up but no, it doesn't mean the lessons are wrong. Open for interpretation, but maybe not wrong. [ a pause. ] ... sometimes you have to do things you don't want to in order to survive, and I wouldn't fault anybody else for that either. It's more about what to do going forward now.
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This is where I say I don't know what gaslighting is, and I was afraid to ask. Gas...? As in...flatulence? Is that what you were comparing my life to.
[we do not have gas stoves or hitchcock. so we do not have this term.]
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[a grim smile because, comparing her life to a fart also made sense, but this is admittedly a better comparison.]
And I agree that's what happened to me. But it doesn't mean every lesson I learned was wrong. I was taught to believe in some awful things, but I also survived, and I don't regret learning to be a survivor. [and yet some people would think the pragmatism and self-preservation that was hard won was immoral.]
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