[she hasn't ever really thought of her situation as similar to a child being abused, and it makes her a little sad to think of it that way. the sharrans weren't her family. she never loved them. but she can't deny how helpless she is to imagine life without them, nor can she deny how much she wanted shar to love her, if no one else.]
If I've changed at all, it's because of people who I didn't want to disappoint. So as uncertain as I may feel, I will accept your happiness for me gratefully. I'll just have to learn how to face things on my own, and that's not easy.
[ it may not be the exact same and zuriel acknowledges that, but she thinks it's similar. it makes her admire shadowheart a little more for taking that step and it makes her want to see her succeed the way all of them wished for adam to get out of his environment and succeed. ]
You're right. It isn't easy. You have support and it's a good thing to have and it's helpful to know there are people you can rely on and people you want to make proud, but you want to be sure you can manage this change if they can't always be there.
Adam's always been independent. But he still had a lot to learn when it came to standing on his own two feet in a way that wasn't hurtful to himself. I think he managed just fine. Even if he's still learning, he made it. And so will you.
As long as you remember there will always been people who will talk about it with you. Especially after so many weeks together. People care about you, Shadowheart. People want you to successfully be your own person.
[ she's so cute. that's me and also zuriel thinking this. ]
Believe me, I understand that. I've never wanted to disappoint people either. [ she's very headstrong and very aggressive about what she wants in life, but her own circumstances have stopped her time and time again. she doesn't want to disappoint people who actually believe in her to get further. ] But I think it's important to remember that even if it isn't right away, it isn't like their support will evaporate. Strange as it is to know it will be there.
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If I've changed at all, it's because of people who I didn't want to disappoint. So as uncertain as I may feel, I will accept your happiness for me gratefully. I'll just have to learn how to face things on my own, and that's not easy.
Did your friend ever learn how?
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You're right. It isn't easy. You have support and it's a good thing to have and it's helpful to know there are people you can rely on and people you want to make proud, but you want to be sure you can manage this change if they can't always be there.
Adam's always been independent. But he still had a lot to learn when it came to standing on his own two feet in a way that wasn't hurtful to himself. I think he managed just fine. Even if he's still learning, he made it. And so will you.
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I don't want to disappoint everyone who has tried to help me. [but that's pressure as well as a good thing.]
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Believe me, I understand that. I've never wanted to disappoint people either. [ she's very headstrong and very aggressive about what she wants in life, but her own circumstances have stopped her time and time again. she doesn't want to disappoint people who actually believe in her to get further. ] But I think it's important to remember that even if it isn't right away, it isn't like their support will evaporate. Strange as it is to know it will be there.
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