What if it isn't exactly expected and they're just offering you the chance to say what you may be thinking? I don't think everyone knows exactly what to say at all times.
It's a nice thought, but even if that's someone's intention, that doesn't mean they can necessarily stick to it.
[people aren't always going to stay silent if you say something they disagree with, etc. even if they initially meant to just listen.
again, he shrugs.]
I speak my thoughts when I'm willing, and I don't when I'm not. It's as simple as that. [...] I know what you're thinking, and I promise this isn't a case where I'm just... bottling everything up, refusing to confide in anyone ever. I've known people like that, and I don't want to inflict that on others.
[but it is the kind of thing where he very much has to take it at his own pace, rather than someone else's.]
[ well that's something of a relief, even if she's still thinking this over and trying to puzzle things out. ]
That's something, at least. I feel as though bottling it up would really make it worse. [ but... ] How do you decide when you do and don't feel like saying anything?
[ some people are not the best judges of themselves. ]
... I don't think feelings are the kind of thing where you can easily lay out a pre-planned schematic—that under this situation, you'll feel and do this, and under another situation, you'll feel and do that.
It's just a matter of when it happens, if I feel like it's something that'll help me or the other person.
Some are. For instance, I don't tell everyone my thoughts if we aren't close. And then others it's about judging their mood to see how they might hear what I have to say. I mean like that.
All I'm saying is that you have to try a little when it comes to that balance. Giving too much isn't the answer. But holding back too much isn't either.
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[people aren't always going to stay silent if you say something they disagree with, etc. even if they initially meant to just listen.
again, he shrugs.]
I speak my thoughts when I'm willing, and I don't when I'm not. It's as simple as that. [...] I know what you're thinking, and I promise this isn't a case where I'm just... bottling everything up, refusing to confide in anyone ever. I've known people like that, and I don't want to inflict that on others.
[but it is the kind of thing where he very much has to take it at his own pace, rather than someone else's.]
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That's something, at least. I feel as though bottling it up would really make it worse. [ but... ] How do you decide when you do and don't feel like saying anything?
[ some people are not the best judges of themselves. ]
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It's just a matter of when it happens, if I feel like it's something that'll help me or the other person.
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[he is more of an intuition kind of person.]
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All I'm saying is that you have to try a little when it comes to that balance. Giving too much isn't the answer. But holding back too much isn't either.
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[not accusing, but a genuine question, although he supposes she did just partially explain.]
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[ this is also true by nature of being a walking battery. ]
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[ and we can call this because it is w4. ]