[ yves pauses because what she describes is similar to his own process of physical injuries - wounds that never heal, and then he gets injured again because that's just the nature of this place
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... probably not.
But I hope people grow closer regardless. Even if I'm sure that's probably an unpopular opinion...
[ she has so many concerns about this man swear to god. ]
I don't know if I'd say unpopular so much as worrying. People want to be around other people when they're scared, but they're just as scared to lose them. [ which, like, relatable. ] I think as long as some of you are around to remind people they can and should be able to be together. You've never struck me as the type to back off even when someone tries to put up a barrier.
Adolphe didn't say a word to me for months when we first met, so you'd be right.
... but I understand the fear. I do. I just... don't know if cutting away our hearts is the right move to do instead. Life is different when the path forward is mostly motivated by fear.
Your stubbornness really is your greatest asset, I think. [ just a thought. ]
I don't think that's the right move either, but... I don't like the idea of forcing people to move on before they're ready either. Everyone's different. I don't want to cause more fear by trying to guide them forward without resolving their hurts. [ a little frown. ] I know I'm preaching to the choir with you, but...
Stubbornness! [ he laughs ] Sure, I think I've heard something like that before.
But... yeah. I think you're right. I think that there's a delicate enough balance to it all. People who aren't used to death and things like this... I'd rather that they get a chance to figure out how to feel it.
If you have a better word for it, by all means. Persistence, perhaps?
[ she's clearly teasing him, but also, she refuses to think otherwise here. ]
I know it was new for me until recently. [ wry. even before losing gansey and regaining him, she experienced her first loss of someone she loved not long before that. but that person didn't come back at all. ] It feels normal for them to have mixed up feelings about everything, but I can't say I enjoy knowing some of you are used to death, too. Finding the balance is important, but maybe that can't come from us.
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well, ]
... probably not.
But I hope people grow closer regardless. Even if I'm sure that's probably an unpopular opinion...
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I don't know if I'd say unpopular so much as worrying. People want to be around other people when they're scared, but they're just as scared to lose them. [ which, like, relatable. ] I think as long as some of you are around to remind people they can and should be able to be together. You've never struck me as the type to back off even when someone tries to put up a barrier.
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Adolphe didn't say a word to me for months when we first met, so you'd be right.
... but I understand the fear. I do. I just... don't know if cutting away our hearts is the right move to do instead. Life is different when the path forward is mostly motivated by fear.
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I don't think that's the right move either, but... I don't like the idea of forcing people to move on before they're ready either. Everyone's different. I don't want to cause more fear by trying to guide them forward without resolving their hurts. [ a little frown. ] I know I'm preaching to the choir with you, but...
[ it's a weird situation. ]
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But... yeah. I think you're right. I think that there's a delicate enough balance to it all. People who aren't used to death and things like this... I'd rather that they get a chance to figure out how to feel it.
Mourning must be new for a lot of them.
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[ she's clearly teasing him, but also, she refuses to think otherwise here. ]
I know it was new for me until recently. [ wry. even before losing gansey and regaining him, she experienced her first loss of someone she loved not long before that. but that person didn't come back at all. ] It feels normal for them to have mixed up feelings about everything, but I can't say I enjoy knowing some of you are used to death, too. Finding the balance is important, but maybe that can't come from us.